Deep Understanding – True Forgiveness
Conscious evolution, with its emphasis on conscious communication, is calling us to reclaim the true act of forgiveness.
The act of forgiveness is fundamentally altruistic, yet throughout history it has been misunderstood and therefore distorted by religious cultures. When forgiveness is sought or given by one who is consciously unawakened it can be experienced as either disempowering or be used as a power-over dynamic. However, when forgiveness is offered by one who is consciously aware, it is empowering for all involved.
The true act of forgiveness is unifying. Anything other than this can prove to be polarising, as the one who is ‘forgiven’ is often viewed through a lens of judgment and blame, which can give rise to feelings of guilt and shame. This never truly allows for an experience of lasting peace, the ideal outcome for either party.
Forgiveness can polarise people into a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ and ‘good’ or ‘bad’ mentality. Conscious evolution invites us not to forgive in the old dysfunctional and conditioned ways but to instead deeply understand. The experience and energy of this facilitates and cultivates peace and harmony between the one who is deeply understanding and the one who is feeling deeply understood.
Unless we are forgiving from a place of deep understanding then this truly sacred act (in its purest expression) continues to separate (subtly or overtly) rather than unify.
Deep understanding requires us to consider the psychology, history and feelings of another who we may feel a need to forgive. It also invites us to cultivate the same quality of care towards ourselves. We do not sit in blame, shame or judgement but instead ask what was the need behind our own or another’s reaction or action that initially caused upset – for it would have been a need that was somehow trying to be met.
True forgiveness is to be found in compassion, empathy and unconditional love and, essentially, deep and unconditional understanding.